My phone buzzed on a normal Tuesday afternoon, alerting me to a message from my wife Emma. After ten years of marriage, our bond was based on respect, trust, and love. However, this message would rock our marriage to its core.

“Hey, sweetheart! She wrote, “Check this out! I’ve attached a photo.” I was surprised to find Emma with noticeably larger breasts—something we had never talked about—instead of a happy selfie.

I gave her a call right away. “What is this, Emma?” How come you didn’t tell me about this?

She said, “Oh, I thought it would be a nice surprise,” in a casual way. Do you not find it appealing?

“A revelation? This is significant surgery, Emma! How were you unable to talk to me about this? Shaking my voice, I questioned.

“I didn’t believe it to be all that significant. She answered, “I wanted to feel better about myself.

Her remarks hurt. Our trust, which had grown over a decade ago, was broken.

Days later, I came to the conclusion that such a betrayal of trust could not last in a marriage. Emma became combative, adamant that it was her decision and her body.

Although our divorce was painful, it was a sign of a larger problem with misplaced trust.